The first haircut.
It’s hard for me to write about this because I don’t even really know what to say except give you a calendar of events.
It all started about a year ago when Maximo was only 3 months old. Claudio’s culture is the shave the head so the hair grows back quickly.
As you can imagine, I fought shaving off Maximo’s baby hair – and even shed a tear. But, he was starting to lose it and looking more and more like an angry old balding man everyday, so I gave in.
Well, apparently it WORKED – because as you can see, Maximo had (HAD) some fantastic hair. I loved it. I was going for the surfer/mullet-yinzer/hipster/Mason Kardashian look.
I almost got a trim the days before his 1st birthday and chickened out. I also decided then that I was probably NEVER going to cut it – at least for a few years haha.
That was until my grandma kept calling him ‘she’ the entire week we were in Pittsburgh. Claudio insisted that we ‘get a trim.’ So I made the appointment.
Now, you think you know a bad situation when you’re in one – but at the moment – you just are in denial. We were running a few minutes late to our appointment, and I called to tell them the traffic to Brooklyn had us running behind. They sounded fine about it – but now I know – if I’m running late to an appointment – I’ll just reschedule.
I don’t blame Mini Max entirely (Mini Max Cuts and Toys in Brooklyn) – I should’ve taken control of the situation as the mom, but the hairstylist informed us that her lunch was at 1 pm, and her own child was there, waiting to go to lunch. It was 12:55. Since I was so wrapped up in Maximo getting his hair cut, I didn’t think that this would intentionally rush the cut, but looking back , I feel like lunch was more important than Maximo’s new do.
I informed her I was a blogger, so she knew I would be writing about this and taking photos…as I was angling around like paparazzi. I told her ‘just a trim’ I wanted to keep his long hair, and clean up his bangs so they weren’t tickling his face so much. She grabbed a chunk in the back and in my haste, I said – yeah that’s fine.
The entire cut took about 10 minutes. He sat there and watched Elmo as she trimmed him up like a hedge. When he got out of the chair, I was in shock – and I figured it was just because I was so used to seeing him with long hair – that I said it was fine. I mean, you know me – if it was bad, I would’ve said it was bad! But I had already felt rushed to get there, the cut was over in a blink of an eye, and there I was, paying and looking at a child with the bowl cut of Jim Carey in Dumb and Dumber.
Claudio had a breakdown when I sent him pics. That didn’t help. He said to take Maximo back to get it fixed, but do you really want to go back where they just chopped it to begin with? I didn’t want to end up giving him a military buzz!
I went about the day and continued to our afternoon playdate with Brunch with My Baby Moms Christine and Alexis. They kept reassuring me it looked cute – but I couldn’t help but miss and feel MOM GUILT for this awful chop when looking at their children’s cute, long locks.
After a long playdate, and of course stopping by for some NYC pizza (because Brunch with My Baby knows ALL the hot spots to grab a bite! Here we are at Table 87 Coal Oven Pizza on Atlantic Ave in Brooklyn), we headed home, Max took his bath and was off to bed – only to wake up with that big bowl on his head again. haha.
I mean, it is only hair – and it will grow back. But for all you other moms out there – I just say, DON’T RUSH THE APPOINTMENT. If it feels rushed, speak up. Slow down. I will probably go back to Mini Max one day, but it will be more on my terms for the cut – since I know what I want and expect this time.
Maximo still looks cute – it’s just not the haircut of my dreams – and haven’t we all been there. I think I am just disappointed because I had just waited and waited and this was to be a BIG EVENT for us – and it was just whomp whomp. It was rushed, poof it was over and here I was with a bowl cut kid when I wanted a super fun step-by-step process for the first cut.
But – has any mom been happy with their first haircut? Or is this just one of many let downs I have to look forward to in life since I am not a mom and nothing will ever be good enough for my son??
I guess you win some you lose some. Can someone refer me to Mason Kardashian’s hairstyist???
Author: Stephanie Barnhart
Stephanie is a published author—featured in the New York Times, NY Metro Parents Magazine, PARENTGUIDE NEWS, as well as an #expertmom for MommyNearest.com, and contributing author to KidzCentralStation.com and Kidville.com’s Voices of the ‘Ville — author and speaker/consultant on motherhood and the importance of marketing and research in a business arena, specifically online. She also owns her own social media company, www.socialmindedmediagroup.com