2015 has been a love/hate relationship in the last 30 days. Some really awesome things have happened and some really shi**y things have happened. And resolutions? Ha you know I don’t even TRY to create those. No one follows them and it’s a waste of time to try to create unrealistic goals you know you won’t meet. Instead of letting yourself down – stop trying to make the impossible happen and do little things that will ultimately make you feel better about yourself.
I’ve learned you have to roll with the punches. You may think I live this fun, glamorous life up here in NYC, but just like anyone else, I experience a lot of pitfalls and problems. The thing is, I just never let it get me down. I look at them as challenges I have to accept, and to this day, I’ve always been able to find a way to make whatever happen that I want. Seriously. Life gives you lemons – stop holding them crying saying you asked for limes. Cause you’re going to get a lot of limes, and the life lesson is learning how to make YOURSELF happy with limes.
I am getting ready to move here in NYC and if I explained the process, you’re head would spin off and explode. It costs upwards of $10,000 cash upfront and you have to find, love, and move in AND out all within 30 days. The best question someone asked me? What if you don’t find an apartment? haha – well here in NYC there IS no plan B. You find an apartment or you live on the streets. This is probably why New Yorkers are so resilient. We don’t have an option to fail here or the city will swallow you. This is how I have come to be a strong person. You have to learn to say yes and no more, but to the things you would be saying the opposite.
Citizens Watches just opened up a new store in Times Square, and to highlight the opening, we had a little event including ways to make yourself better – starting now. Simple little 5 minutes changes to your schedule that can make a world of different in your life. I thought this was a great idea – start thinking about the little things you can do now to make yourself happier and better instead of these huge long-term goals you will feel guilty not to keep. Work yourself up to them.
Step outside your comfort zone
photo credit: Randi Zinn
Ok yeah you’ve heard this before – and I’m not saying go jump out of an airplane – just do something you want to do but need the help to do it. Case in point. I’ve always wanted to try spin classes, but since I don’t get to workout and often as I want, I wasn’t sure it was something I could keep up with. When Randi Zinn invited me to join her, I knew this was my chance. Being in a room full of peers gave me the push to keep going, I wasn’t going to be the one who couldn’t finish. I also loved the encouragement from the trainer, Sunny. Seriously – Soul Cycle isn’t just a workout – it’s an experience (that I am now hooked on by the way). Think of something you want to do but just keep pushing it off and get a friend to go with you and “hold your hand.” You’ll be surprised to see you can accomplish it, and will feel empowered by your new-found strength. We all need our #virtualvillage, but we also need a in-real-life village, too.
Do it for yourself
One of my favorites? Christian Zamora taught us some quick beauty tips to look good in 5 minutes or less. I see you rolling your eyes saying you’ll never do it – but seriously, even Molly Sims herself said it yesterday – if you force yourself to get dressed and look pretty everyday, you’ll FEEL better. Ever hear about how they tell people who work at home to just wear heels at the desk? Something simple makes you feel more pulled together. I’ve been really wanting to work on my eyebrows.
Ask for help
We all have a flaw in ourselves we want to fix, and Christian not only took the time to show me and help me pick out makeup that would make them look fab – he invited me in to do a makeup tutorial next week. You know why? Because I ASKED HIM. People want to help others – stop thinking you have to do it all on your own – if you have a makeup artist standing there – ask him for tips. If you have a friend standing there while you’re struggling to clean up after your toddler and make a deadline, ask her to help!
Yes I said it. Listen life is too short to be sitting around miserable and crying about all the things you WISH would happen. If you feel better about yourself, you’ll be more daring to make changes you were afraid to in the past. With that, I say spoil yourself a little. Heck, I really say it all the time! Now don’t go breaking the bank, and you can’t do it ALL the time, but go invest in something that is really going to make you feel better – a new pair of shoes, a classic dress, great pair of jeans or a fantastic piece of statement jewelry. I’m known for my manly, chunky watch that I wear every single day, but lately I’ve been feeling more minimal, and I wanted something that would be a classic piece when I dress up from time to time. Chunky watch doesn’t go with little black dress. So this beautiful, chic Citizen’s Sunrise watch ($350) is perfect for my evening wear. PS – did you know that no Citizen watch uses a battery? They all run on sunlight, called eco-drive. That means you never have to change a battery again!
How are you dealing with the day-to-day grind? Share your favorite quick pick-me-up tips!